Stolen Glances--A Peek At My First Boudoir Session

Boudoir is something that has always intrigued me. When one of my closest friends--and another Soul Sister--came to me and asked if I would shoot a Boudoir session with her, I was excited! Nervous, but excited--I don't think it is a bad thing to be nervous when you try something new, it is normal! I did some serious research on other Boudoir Sessions that people have done, got some ideas on Pinterest (my constant weakness to motivation), and felt a titch more confident with the concept. 

I was glad that my first Boudoir session was with someone I knew so well, and whom I trust and trusts me. For these types of sessions, trust is definitely key. You are baring yourself to someone, and sometimes you choose to bare a lot, sometimes a little--but no matter how much you choose to show, you need to trust that your photographer is a professional.

And I do, indeed, suggest that any Boudoir pictures you take are done professionally. That doesn't mean the photographer needs to have a team, or dozens of lenses, or fancy lighting equipment--the session I did was lit completely by a single lamp and diffused natural light from a window. BUT, photographers have an eye for the right angles, have the ability to move around and position you, and adjust props and jewelry and hair as needed. Taking snaps from your point and shoot with a bright flash do not always provide the best shots and you want this session to empower you and build your confidence, as well as provide something gorgeous and sexy for your partner (if that is your intention). 

Also, your choice in clothing is a big part of making these sorts of sessions the best that they can be. Buy yourself a brand new, sexy piece of lingerie, some heels, stalkings, and/or what have you--this will give the session a more composed and consistent feel, and it will definitely boost your self-love! Pick neutral colours and patterns--obviously, lace is perfect but so is silk and satin. Make sure it all fits well, take some test-shot selfies and really make sure you absolutely love the way you look and how the outfit feels. I cannot stress it enough--YOU NEED TO FEEL COMFORTABLE. 

I am, definitely, a big advocate of Pinterest. Pull the site up and start your search for "Boudoir Photography". This will get your idea juices flowing for what you want to do during your session! My sister had an entire board of poses and ideas that she showed me--no matter who you choose to photograph the session, communicate with them. Explain what you want out of the session, show them what you will wearing (they are going to see it anyways!), and have an open mind to their suggestions before the session. Remember that we, as photographers, are able to see you from the outside, so we can pose you for the best possible shots that show off all of what you want to show.

During your session, don't be afraid to experiment. At least for me, I love people who know what they want. It's not that it makes it quick and easy, but it does streamline the process of shooting the images when a client has their own ideas. If you saw a pose, give it a try! If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out--don't be bummed! We all have unique body types and looks, and not every pose will be the most flattering.

Don't be afraid of your photographer getting close--I know I had to in order to get the details of my sister's outfit! I do also shoot with a 50MM Compact-Macro Lens, which means the closer I get, the better details I capture.

The best place to do a Boudoir Session is, in my opinion, the client's own bedroom (or living room, or somewhere in their home); the reason for this is because it helps them relax. They are in a known place, and they can control their environment there. The negative side to shooting in a client's home, though, is space. I ended up having to creep around in the closet to get some of my best shots from this session! It was something we could joke about, which definitely lightened the mood and made for some great laughs since then.

Another great option for location is a middle to high end Hotel. Not a Motel 6 or a Super 8--I am talking about somewhere that has a bit more class. It doesn't need to cost hundreds of dollars to rent the room, but the room should have well painted walls, a great window with simple colours and very little kitchy artwork. Whether in the client's home or in a Hotel, remember to either bring solid coloured sheets and pillow cases (red, black, and white are the best options for Boudoir, in my opinion), or make sure the client has a set. Change out the sheets before the session (ideally before the client arrives or as the client is getting ready), and get a few test shots to see the best settings, angles, and lighting options. 

My sister ended up doing her own makeup and hair--which worked for her because she was going for a very minimal look. I do suggest that you at least talk with a make-up professional (whether an artist, a beautician, or someone who knows their stuff at a department store make-up counter like Macy's) to make sure that you are choosing the right colours for your skintone and your chosen outfit. 

Boudoir sessions aren't just about taking off close in front of a camera--in fact, that is the least important factor. What really matters is your attitude. Even if you are shy (which can make for some amazing shots!), there is something that happens once the camera comes out that brings out our inner vixens. We devour the attention of the camera. If you are really nervous about the session, talk with your photographer about it and see what advice they have to offer. This is all about you, remember that.

I learned a lot from this first session. I mean seriously, a lot. Everything I have said in this blog post was learned during that short period of clicking the shutter button, discussing possible poses, and moving around. You can learn a lot from each session, whether you are a client or a photographer. You just need to have an open mind!